Once you know and understand your personal values, you can consult them whenever you need to make a key decision. Should you accept the new job you’ve been offered? Should you pursue a new relationship now? How much time should you spend with your family? These can be tough decisions without a clear right or wrong answer. You may choose to answer them differently at different points in your life.
If you haven’t read the first and second part of ”How to Live Your Values” series, then I recommend you go and read them first. Reexamining Your Values Now comes the really [...]
If you haven’t read the first part of ”How to Live Your Values” series, then I recommend you go and read it first. Eliciting Your Values Here is a step-by-step [...]
I call the following list “Potential Values List”. Because this values list is merely a guide. It is lengthy and contains many synonyms but is certainly not exhaustive. There may be a lot of other values, as well.
“Getting Things Done” has been a real influencer for me. Allen presents a great system for getting both work and personal affairs in excellent order, which could transform any area of work or life which features discretionary time. Its popularity is not surprising, and it should not just be considered for business executives.
I’ve read many books that stress the importance of understanding your personal values, getting clear about what’s most important to you in life, and how to live your values. But at the time of this writing, I haven’t yet come across a source that covers this incredibly useful concept with sufficient depth. Most of the values coverage I’ve read takes you through a process of eliciting your current values and then leaves it at that. But I want to take you much deeper into this rich subject and show you how to intelligently connect your values to your goals.
Although it’s very hard to know when your beliefs are accurate, it isn’t as difficult to detect inaccuracies, so focus your improvement efforts there for starters. Symptoms of inaccurate beliefs include chronic procrastination, mixed emotions, lying, self-sabotage, setting goals that fizzle, fear of failure, fear of rejection, timidity, depression, anger, frustration, resentment, and wearing excessively baggy pants where the crotch is down to your knees (you do NOT look cool in those; you look like a dolt).
Some days I feel as if I’m infected by the curiosity bug, always wanting to know the very latest information for no particular reason. I’d catch myself unconsciously checking up on various information outlets far more frequently than I needed to. Perhaps this is a strange form of perfectionism.